If I Had Known For Just One Second You’d Be Back To Bother Me

Today’s Prompt: Take a line from a song that you love or connect with. Turn that line into the title of your post.

Oooh, a music prompt. I do so love music. It is my constant companion. It feels exactly the way that I do at all times. It commiserates and cheers me on.

To be honest though, I’m still a bit knackered from writing yesterday’s post about my experience with domestic violence. So, when I read this prompt, the immortal words of Ms. Gloria Gaynor popped into my head.

At first I was afraid I was petrified
Kept thinkin’ I could never live without you by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin’ how you did me wrong
And I grew strong and I learned how to get along
And so you’re back from outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second you’d back to bother me
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
’cause you’re not welcome anymore
Weren’t you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye?
Did you think I’d crumble?
Did you think I’d lay down and die?
Oh no, not I. I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love I know I’ll stay alive;
I’ve got all my life to live,
I’ve got all my love to give and I’ll survive,
I will survive. Hey hey.
It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying’ hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart,
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself. I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me, somebody new
I’m not that chained up little girl who’s still in love with you,
And so you felt like droppin’ in
And just expect me to be free,
Now I’m savin’ all my lovin’ for someone who’s lovin’ me
Go on now…

Sing it, sister! That song is probably the most GRRRL POWER song in all of existence. As cheesy as it is, and it is pretty damn cheesy, that song helped me through many a hard time. Even though it’s about a relationship break up, and not specifically about domestic violence, it still fits.

As much as I love the original, and I do, I find myself listening to Cake’s version even more for a couple of reasons. First, it’s sung by a guy. A lot of people seem to disregard the fact that men can be victims of abuse, too. Second, I love their syncopation. How every single word is emphasized in the line “You Thought You’d Just Drop By And You Expect Me To Be Free…” It’s brilliant. Third, the addition of the trumpet. Fuck yeah. Finally, Cake changed “stupid” to “fucking” in the line “I should have changed that fucking lock.” Somehow, that little change makes a world of difference. It makes it more poignant and in your face.

So, take that, all you abusers out there. We will survive. As long as we know how to love, we know we’ll stay alive.

I apologize for the fact that this song will now be stuck in your head for the next two days.